Dear Songwriter who isn't confident
Posted by Francesca de Valence on Wednesday, May 08, 2019
Dear Songwriter who isn’t confident,
I can see your songwriting book is now filling up with new and finished songs. Songs that you’ve been writing and finishing since I wrote to you last. That’s brilliant! You’re finally doing what you’ve been wanting to do for so long - finishing songs.
And because you’ve been writing songs for the last 4 months, every single week, and you have 20 brand new finished songs, of course you want more. You want to share these songs and do more with these songs. Isn’t that totally exciting?
But the next level feels like such a leap. How do you get there? you ask. I can imagine you wilting away at the very thought of how you will get to where you need to go to next.
I understand. I used to be just like you. I used to lie in bed and imagine people sitting in the audience in front of me, listening to every word of my song. My song. That song that I wrote about that really painful experience. And in my dreams, the people in front of me are moved to tears. They understand me and they feel understood.
There is no magic pill that you can take to become confident. And ‘fake it til you make it’ happens only when you get a rush of courage, and sometimes it’s months in between drinks.
But you desperately want more. To play your songs, and record your songs, to release your songs and be living your wildest creative dreams. But you need confidence to do that, right?
Or do you? What if you don’t?
I started mentoring Brisbane songwriter Carla Thursday only 6 months ago. She had written 20 songs in I Heart Songwriting Club and she wanted to be getting her songs onto stages and recording and releasing her music. But she didn’t know how and she lacked the confidence to do this.
So together we put together a plan of HOW she was going to go from no gigs and no released music to building gig experience, fans and finally recording and releasing her debut single with a ticketed launch concert.
And over 6 months she did the work. The work that was set out in her plan. Every single week. About 4 hours of work every single week. Sometimes more. She asked questions, she acknowledged the fear, but she did it anyway. And at some point along that journey, I vividly remember getting a message from Carla saying: “I get it, Francesca. The work works. If I do the work, I will get the results”.
Carla is releasing her debut single this week and has 12 gigs booked on her calendar in the coming 3 months including a ticketed launch concert. And what’s more, she now says, she finds performing her own songs easy and fun! Can you imagine that?
Carla is now confident about writing songs and sharing her songs and performing her songs. And what it was that solved her problem of lack of confidence was having a simple and crystal clear plan that she took action on every single week. And the results of doing the work built her the confidence that she was seeking.
She didn’t wait until she was confident before she started. If she had done that, she would probably be in the same place she was 6 months ago - with no gigs and no single to launch.
So do you want to know how to get confident?
Here it is:
And in case you think this solution is just for hobby songwriters, you are mistaken. It will work for any songwriter or singer-songwriter at any stage of their career development.
This is something I’m so passionate about; inspiring songwriters to be living their wildest creative dreams. Life is too short to wait until you’re confident before you take action. So I want to help people take action!
Do you want to get clear on what it is you want from your music career?
Then my 1-day workshop event for singer-songwriters in Brisbane on Sun 26 May is for you. Sign up and show up for this career changing event and forge a path that will lead you to living your wildest creative dreams - getting your songs onto stages, and recording and releasing your music!